SEE FEW WAYS TO LIVE BETTER AS SPOUSE.

It takes great effort.  It takes a heart that can forgive and tolerate. It takes commitment, discipline and love. It takes a character that has been pruned to eliminate rashness and irritation. Basically, it takes serious bonding exercises like:

1) Create time to talk sweet talks with your spouse and reduce disagreements, unhealthy assumptions, proving points for your spouse, nursing pains and hurts, and unnecessary strife.

 

2) Learn to make your home a pleasant abode, a place of refuge, a hiding place, a comfort zone, a cool arena of peace so that when there is heat, war, e.t.c outside your spouse can run back home. Don't make your home a place of temptation but a place to run to when temptation comes. Nurture your relationship and invest in it. 

3) Sleep together on the same bed, eat together, let there be romantic words and romantic body contacts. Make your bed time another honeymoon time. Next time if your spouse lay on that bed without you he/she will feel uncomfortable. But if you sleep with your spouse on the same bed and you don't feel each other, you lay on the bed as if you are alone, not interested about each others feelings and need, just interested in your sleep, no body contact, no expression of love, then you can't miss each other and that could be dangerous to that marriage.

4) Aim at pleasing your spouse and winning your spouse's interest.

5) Plant yourself and plant love into the thinking faculty and the heart of your spouse such that your picture is always in each others heart and your names are in each others mouth. Whenever you or your spouse wants to leave the house, make your spouse home sick and sick of love.

 

6) Give your spouse a good welcome whenever your spouse comes home and tell your spouse that you miss him/her.

7) Avoid over familiarity that breeds contempt. Do not take your spouse for granted, treat each other like a king and a queen; as the CEO of your family after God. 

8) Don't deny each other sex but always have good sex where each other enjoys orgasm. Both of you need good sex to enjoy its benefits. Create time for romance.

9) Fix a date, stroll together on the street holding hands with each other. Attend occasions together, visit friends together, etc

10) Be a good friend to each other, share your feeling and burdens together.

 

11) Pray together, attend church activities together and sit together always in church and in other public offices where possible.

12) Handle each other with gentleness.

13)  Play down on the inabilities, errors or mistakes and weaknesses of your spouse. It is your own dirty linen. Please don't wash it in the public.

14)  Help each other where necessary.

15) Avoid aggression and coercion especially at moments of disagreements or misunderstandings. 

16) Don't just air your view/feelings but seek to understand your spouse.

17) Don't be controversial or be an opposition to your spouse's opinion/view. Promote his/her perception and wisely introduce your idea without generating unnecessary heat.

18) Buy things for your spouse no matter how small or big. 

19) Play with your spouse. Create fun in your relationship. Do things that will cause laughter and laugh together. 

20) Share your dealings with others with your spouse. Hide nothing from each other including your mistakes and sins.

'DecencyWrites'.