SEE FEW WRONG REASONS PEOPLE ENTER IN TO RELATIONSHIP/COURTSHIP/MARRIAGE

WRONG REASONS PEOPLE ENTER IN RELATIONSHIP/COURTSHIP/MARRIAGE

PART 2

Few days ago, I started this series on the topic above. 

I wrote about loneliness as the first wrong reason people get into relationships which could be very disastrous. 

If you have not read it kindly go through it to catch up with us.

Today, I will move straight to the second point.

Are you ready for the flight? 

2. EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT

Many people get entangled into a wrong relationship/courtship and even marriage because they are emotionally attached to the person.

Smile, permit to laugh small abeg... emotional attachment is not love. 

Just like the word goes it is being attached to someone with your emotions.

This is not love because it only means you guys can't control your emotions for each other.

Most of the time you don't have the same vision with him/her, or heading in the same direction but only that you are stuck with each other emotionally.

Do you know that many people have made the mistake of yielding to this deceit of emotional attachment and got married and are now living in hell. 

They are now fighting day and night as marriage has opened their eyes to the fact they are not or were not in love in the first place. 

My brothers and sisters, Marriage is the rest of your life, we are talking about the next 50,60 or 70 years of your life. 

How can you put it in the hands of sinking sand called emotional attachment? The marriage must surely sink and crash.

Most people get trapped because this person was their first crush. You get close to him or her, you can't handle nor stop seeing him or her in a day. You just can't break loose.

Loneliness also can sponsor emotional attachment.

Guess you want to know How ? 

When people are lonely and they suddenly find someone who comes along and starts paying them attention, they naturally get hooked on the people. 

Especially when they just came out of an emotional trauma as a result of heart breaks.

How do you know whether you are in love or just emotionally attached ?

I) Love is characterized by a strong desire to give, While emotional attachment is characterized by a strong desire to take - it makes statement like, I can't live without him or her.

II) Love is not just a feeling, it is a commitment based on character and values while emotional attachment is a feeling of dependency.

III) Total dependency and inability to do without the other person that makes it feel like love, is actually the proof that it is not true love.

This is why you should take time to build yourself emotionally. 

Before you get engaged or even if you already are, stop and ask yourself, what I feel for this person is it really love or am I just emotionally attached?

'DecencyWrites'.